I Did It!
Well . . . I did it. I left him.
I don't know whether I'm glad or sad or mad or what. I guess I'm a combination of all these things. Glad that I can now take control over my own self and build a life that is healthy for me to live in. Sad that I have to leave the man that I love in order to keep my spirit--and possibly my body--alive. Mad that my husband has allowed this to happen by not taking me seriously, by placing his mother and his sister above his wife and making me the "other woman" in this strange relationship, and for making our home--and our very life together--a place of tension and fear in spite of all my efforts to make it a place where we could both prosper.
I didn't want to do it, but there was nothing else I could do. I am physically and mentally unhealthy and I have tried to get well for several years now. How can one heal in such a toxic environment?
I miss my husband. I sense that he misses me too. But what else can I do?
posted by vengeance-in-law at 11:53 AM
14 Comments:
How difficult your decisions must have been for you. It's really such a shame that your husband forced you to choose, it should have been him choosing you. But, now you can heal and maybe, just maybe he'll see how miserable life is without you and what he really needed to do in the first place. We moved 500 miles away to get away from a similar situation, but not quite as bad as yours. I loathe my husband's family! Good luck to you, I'll keep you in my prayers.
Do you have an email, I would love to chat as I am contemplating making this tough decision myself.. my biggest fear is that instead of feeling regret for his denial for them he will be so overly praised by the evil ones that he will have wished I left a long time ago.
Thanks Anonymous. I can use the prayers. I feel myself healing already, but I cannot picture my future without my husband. This is such a strange thing for me. I know it's wrong to be in a relationship with so much emotional abuse, but I can't help but think that leaving my husband is wrong too. I feel like I'm choosing between two evils.
If I knew my husband was hurting me intentionally, I wouldn't have such mixed feelings. But I truly believe that because of how he was raised, he just doesn't know any better. Unfortunately, it's not enough that he do his best. His mother taught him such backwards behavior. The harder he tries, it seems, the worse he can be. Please pray they he may "see the light" and change his ways. Pray, too, that I can have the wisdom to make good decisions about all this.
Many thanks!
Thanks for visiting and commenting, HelpMe214. I'll send you an email . . .
HelpMe214,
I thought I could email you through Blogger, but your email isn't listed in your profile. You can send me a message at vengeanceinlaw@mail2psycho.com if you'd like.
I look forward to hearing from you.
I hope you're doing okay. God bless you and be with you through this difficult part of your life.
Thank you Anonymous. I really do appreciate the support. At times, I am flooded with doubt about whether or not I have made a good (and proper) choice. It helps to know that there are people out in the world who are not condemning me for my decision.
I hope to post more blog entries soon about how my life is now progressing. Please remember me in your prayers so that I might have positive things to report . . .
Ugh! I was on-line contemplating starting my own arrogant inlaw site. Boy, do I have stories! I won't go into it now, but to give you an idea of the control my in-laws have, my sister-in-law has power of attorney over my husband. To make things worse, they've all decided to act as if they're really turning into spiritual people. I'd love to believe it's true, but their actions continue to prove that their "beliefs" are another way to manipulate people into believing they're decent.
I've often thought about you and I really hope you're doing okay. I keep you in my thoughts and prayers often. May God be with you - Stacy
I am sorry you wound up leaving your husband because of the inlaws. I think that may wind up happening to me. I thought I was the only one with in-laws from hell.
Jade (Dragone apparently is a lot like your husband, he thinks everything his Mommy & Sister do is fine, or an accident)
I hope that the d-i-law who writes this blog is doing better! Best of luck to you.
I was posting under my real blog name, but now I've created a site just about my in-laws. Why do I think they'd ever take an interest in my blog and read it? They probably won't, but as soon as I choose to write something personal about them, they'll decide it's a great idea to stop in. So I've decided to use a new name and blog. Check it out if you ever want to read about in-laws who should be kicked repeatedly. :)
Also, I think Jade has started a site for this reason as well. You might check it out. I think she's inviting bloggers to join, and I'm willing if I can get my married name of of the link. :)
Well congrats and condolences all in one.....
Hope your doing well now and things are better months away from this post
Wow! It's been so long since I've been to this site. I'm happy to say that I have moved on nicely with my life. I'm so pleased by the (mostly) supportive messages that people have left for me. Knowing that there were people out there who understood what I was going through made a world of difference to me. For a period of time it was the only encouragement I had while trying to improve my life. I wish you all the best in your relationships and in your lives!
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